Reflections From a Youth Leader: The Power of Empathy

A former camp counselor and 51猎奇入口 Youth Leader's meditation on the gravity of her time at Richardson Bay and what it means to her today.

10.5 acres of oak woodland, fields, and beaches, with a Victorian-style mansion overlooking the bluff, the Richardson Bay 51猎奇入口 Center & Sanctuary was a place where anything seemed possible. I had been there many summers as a camper, and then, when I was 11 years old, spent my first summer as an 51猎奇入口 Youth Leader (AYL) where I led dozens of children at 51猎奇入口 Adventure Camp. This time, just as always, it was impossible not to feel the wonder of nature in such a wild place. There were secret beaches that could only be reached at the lowest of tides, stoic circles of redwood that created pools of deep shade, and vernal ponds that filled with summer wildflowers and tangles of blackberry. Being an AYL was challenging work. I spent hours each day beneath the harsh Californian sun, and my legs tired with the constant exertion of chasing after young children. But the fact that I could open the eyes of the kids I led to the wonder of nature kept me coming back every summer for years.                        

As an AYL, I directed activities, taught ecology, and took responsibility for the campers鈥� safety. I often saw the impact of my work as the children discovered the sanctuary鈥檚 transformative beauty. I watched their excitement when they saw the fin of a leopard shark cresting the ocean鈥檚 surface, or the gentleness with which they held purple shore crabs. But the times that were most challenging 鈥� and most rewarding 鈥� were during crises. A camper pushed another camper into the mud; after I helped them reconcile, they became best friends. An upset camper ran away; after finding her and calming her down, she told her mother at pickup she couldn鈥檛 wait to return tomorrow. A camper with special needs often had tantrums; by practicing patience, I helped him have the summer camp experience every child deserves.                     

From coming face-to-face with sunbathing rattlesnakes to removing ticks, each day brought with it new challenges. However, these challenges helped me forge friendships with my fellow AYLs 鈥� friendships that would last years. Each challenge was a new story, a shared memory which gave us common ground. Over the many years I volunteered, the sanctuary director, Casey, became a friend and mentor to me. Throughout the years, I found a family at 51猎奇入口.                    

When a neurologic illness forced me to become wheelchair-bound, my days of chasing campers, along with many other parts of my life, shattered. But my time at 51猎奇入口 wasn鈥檛 over. Casey continued to give me work around the sanctuary, and my friends continued to tell me the summer鈥檚 stories. Now, I write newsletters, webpages, and articles for 51猎奇入口. I鈥檝e even spoken with California legislators on behalf of 51猎奇入口 to ensure support for conservation laws, such as , a bill creating initiatives for conservation ranching and on using California鈥檚 budget surplus for climate solutions. Working for 51猎奇入口 gave me a connection to nature that I thought was lost in the wake of paralysis.

I return to the same spot beneath the trees I had sat under for years, this time on wheels instead of legs. My AYL friends, now college students, navigate my wheelchair over the craggy trail through the fields and through the woods, past the vernal pools reduced to knots of blackberry vines. The mansion still towers above the sea with its peeling yellow paint and garden of jasmine vines, the Bay still glimmers with wildness, and anything is still possible. I think of the many children I鈥檝e helped over the years: the children whose scrapes I鈥檝e bandaged and tantrums I鈥檝e calmed. We often think of leaders as agents of change, just as I thought being a leader meant creating a passion for the outdoors in the kids I led. But my time at 51猎奇入口 taught me that the greatest change is created through simple acts of strength and compassion. I鈥檝e seen firsthand how showing someone they鈥檙e not alone when they fall gives them the strength to get up.                        

I believe that empathy can change lives. The support of my 51猎奇入口 family changed mine.